Hello again, it’s Dr Melissa Harrison here from our West Australian-based psychological practice, which has been a part of your community since 2012. As we approach the end of the year, a time that often encourages reflection, I wanted to share a perspective that resonates deeply with our team. Today, let’s talk about the varied ways people experience December, particularly around Christmas, and how we can foster understanding and respect for these differences.

Understanding Diverse Perspectives on Christmas

Christmas, widely celebrated around the world, often conjures images of joy, family gatherings, and festive decorations. However, it’s important to remember that not everyone shares the same sentiments about this time of year. For various reasons, Christmas might not hold the same warmth and excitement for everyone.

Religious and Cultural Differences

Globally, people from different religious backgrounds may not celebrate Christmas due to their own spiritual traditions. For instance, Jewish communities observe Hanukkah, a festival of lights that celebrates the re-dedication of the Second Temple in Jerusalem. Meanwhile, Muslims may not celebrate Christmas as their religious observances are tied to Islamic events, such as Ramadan and Eid. Followers of other religions also have their own significant days that hold spiritual importance, distinct from Christmas, such as Rohatsu (or Bodhi Day) for Buddhists, and Diwali for Sikh and Hindu communities. 

In Australia, where multiculturalism is celebrated, it’s crucial to acknowledge and respect these diverse traditions. Recognising and appreciating these differences not only a matter of ‘tolerance’, it enriches and strengthens our community.

Personal and Emotional Associations

Beyond religious and cultural reasons, some individuals might find Christmas challenging due to personal experiences. For those who have faced losses—be it a loved one, a cherished pet, or significant life changes—Christmas can evoke feelings of sadness or loneliness, contrasting sharply with the general merriment. Psychologically, this period can trigger anniversary reactions, a phenomenon where individuals experience heightened emotional responses around the anniversary of a significant event.

Culturally Appropriate Responses

As we navigate these diverse experiences, it’s important to approach conversations and interactions with sensitivity. Here are a few tips based on evidence-based literature:

• Inquire and Listen: If you’re unsure about someone’s traditions or feelings toward Christmas, a simple, respectful inquiry can be enlightening. Listen actively to their responses without making assumptions.
• Use Inclusive Language: When sending out holiday greetings or organising celebrations, consider using inclusive terms like “Season’s Greetings” or “Happy Holidays.”
• Offer Support: For those who might be experiencing grief or loneliness, offering a listening ear or inviting them to community events can be a thoughtful gesture.

From our team here, we encourage embracing the rich tapestry of traditions and personal stories that our clients and community members bring into our lives. This December let’s celebrate not just Christmas, but the multitude of ways people find meaning during this season.

The incomparable actor and author Henry Winkler (The Fonz, and a Jewish man married to a Christian) remarked that whether it was the Menorah or the Christmas tree, what really matters is the ecumenical joy and connection that spiritual observances encourage in us, our families and our communities.  He might very well be right.

Thank you for joining me in this reflection. Here’s to a respectful and inclusive holiday season for all!