Hello again, and a warm welcome to those who might be joining us for the first time! I’m Dr Melissa Harrison, coming to you from our lovely offices in the heart of South West WA, Bunbury and Busselton. As a Clinical Psychologist, I’ve encountered numerous families grappling with the festive cheer and challenges that Christmas brings.
Christmas is undoubtedly a time for joy and celebration, but let’s not sugar coat it, it can also be a period rife with stress and family conflicts. From debates over who hosts the Christmas dinner to disagreements about the guest list, the festive season can sometimes feel more like a battlefield than a peaceful family gathering.
Many of us, despite having moved out and grown up, find ourselves slipping back into old family dynamics when we reunite with relatives over the holidays. It’s as if the clock turns back and we’re teenagers again, navigating the same old squabbles. But remember, Christmas doesn’t have to be confined to just one day. Whether it’s Christmas Eve, Boxing Day, or even a Christmas in July, what truly matters is the event and its meaning, not the date on the calendar.
As adults, we have the autonomy to shape Christmas the way we want. There’s no rulebook saying it has to look a certain way. If your past Christmas experiences were less than joyful, take this as an opportunity to create new traditions that resonate with you. In our household, we’ve started a small ritual where we jot down what we loved and what didn’t quite hit the mark each year. This helps us gradually craft a celebration that we truly enjoy, whether it’s deciding if the main meal should be at lunch or dinner or choosing between a hot or a cold Christmas meal.
Moreover, Christmas is a time for sharing, and not just in terms of presents. Don’t be a martyr when it comes to preparation! Sharing the load of cooking and cleaning can prevent the bulk of the work from falling on one person’s shoulders. And if someone does choose to take on most of the tasks, remember, it’s their choice—no grudges about others not helping should be held.
So, as we gear up for this festive season, let’s strive to make it a stress-free one. Embrace the freedom to redefine what Christmas means to you, share the responsibilities, and most importantly, create memories you’ll cherish for years to come.Wishing everyone a delightful and peaceful festive season. Let’s make this Christmas one where we all truly feel the joy and peace it’s meant to bring.
